To aim or not to aim that is the point of discussion to find traction in life or even to give well-considered advice when we are asked a question about the topic. To be very honest as I always endeavor to be, I was asked to talk to the youth in our church which sparked my interest and research into the topic of having an aim.
The reason I'm in two minds about aiming to reach a certain outcome is because of the most beautiful blessings, gifts, and people I have the privilege to know and spend life with.
Did anyone have a choice or aim to find parents or caregivers who raised them? My mom Linda, the kindest, most loving, and supportive being raised us, and my brothers and I were naughty. I remember the most beautiful words she ever said in my presence about me, "Give her time, she'll make the right decision, she always prepares well." How can anyone deserve or aim to have a mom so kind? My dad Pieter, taught me how to make lists of things to do and plan. You can probably say my Father taught me how to aim, and for that, I'm most grateful.
Paul Keller, my tall, dark hair, blue-eyed, lovely, supportive, best-daddy, wonderful husband. I recall in my matric year that I miss and long to have a partner, another half, someone kind to love and hold. Did I aim to meet him? No. The first time I met Paul was during a church choir practice, the connection was instant and the rest is history...23 years of beautiful memories.
Erin and Ross, our beautiful children. I remember the day I walked around our pool outside our Boksburg home, thinking about and yearning to be a mom. Those female hormones talking loudly. Did we aim, probably but also no? Blessings, undeserved blessings.
To have a best friend has been one of the missing pieces in my life for many years. I recall missing my person, female energy, and the intimacy of a friend. Did I aim to meet her? Yes and No. I did see in anothers a true friend. Here I realize that we are all in different situations, with various expectations, interests that are not the same. It took 41 years before Retha-Mari walked into our lives, bringing with her the Prinsloo passion, feeling strongly about things, wanting to climb mountains and walk for hours, preferably walking the entire day. Did I aim to meet her? No. The blessing of friendship.
You may say yes Monique these are relationships, what about work!
Aiming to find a specific work or employment has also surprised me. I resigned from a position in 2018 without a next job lined up. I was tired and on the verge of burnout. Tired, in shame, and scared I only held on to the hope that there must be something else. I did not know what "else" was. I trusted that time would clear my vision. I did not know what to aim at but surrendered to simply being and praying for God's will in our lives. It was a Saturday morning, while cleaning the church, that my phone rang, I private number appeared on my phone. Sadiya from the University of the Witwatersrand with a temporary invitation to be a clinical educator and stand-in for her Orthopedic teaching block. The rest is history. I could never have imagined enjoying work and working with wonderful colleagues and students as I am doing now.
I do believe in aiming, but there is another dimension of being. Standing in faith yields beautiful surprising outcomes.
Do I believe in aiming? Yes and No.
What experiences have you had? Tell me about them?
With love always,
Monique
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